New Year, Same You

Do you enjoy making New Year’s resolutions or do you avoid them? Have you ever set an unattainable resolution and then been hard on yourself for falling short of your goal?

Why do so many of us make good faith commitments then fail to honor them? Here are some explanations on why we often fall short on our New Year’s resolutions.

Some resolutions are set up to fail. Often being set at the beginning of a new year instead of set from a true motivation to make a change. We may be trying to please or appease a friend or family member; not really wanting to make a change for ourselves. Having internal motivation is a lasting driver that will create long lasting changes.
Some of us tend to be poor long-term planners. Often creating New Year resolutions without a concrete plan; neglecting preparations to take steps forward. Resolutions are best done by developing a plan. Address how to handle obstacles or change routines. Being outcome driven with unobtainable goals removes joy. Often goals get abandoned instead of our expectations being properly addressed.
Sometimes we create New Year’s resolutions that involve focusing on our perceived flaws or insecurities. We may create goals related to negative thoughts such as “I am overweight” rather than “I want to be healthier”. This can chip away at self -esteem and lead us to reflect negatively about who we are. For people with negative thought patterns; this can increase anxiety or depression.
Some of us are just plain reluctant to change. We tend to like comfort or the familiar things. Creating change often requires discomfort. Some go to great lengths to avoid discomfort.

So what can you do? Consider setting smaller attainable goals! Resolve to make small changes that are sustainable, simple, and realistic. You got this! Make the most of 2022 by making it make sense.